A pattern often associated with abusive relationships is known as the “cycle of abuse” or “cycle of violence.” This cycle typically consists of three main phases: tension-building, explosion, and honeymoon/reconciliation. In this cycle, often there is a confusing pattern that emerges involving hurting, blaming and then baiting. The hurting phase involves the abusive behavior itself, which can be physical, emotional, verbal, or psychological. The abuser may use various tactics to assert control a